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"IF THERE ARE OVER A BILLION PEOPLE BETWEEN THE INDIAN OCEAN, BAY OF BENGAL AND THE ARAB SEA, THERE MUST BE ABOUT 250 MILLION SINGLE WOMEN LOOKING FOR LOVE,"CALCULATES CLARITASLUX. I think he is overestimating your chances, but anyway, it is a nice statistic. ClaritaSlux goes on to state: "An interesting fact is Indians are actually related to European girls as they are Indo-Europeans living in an Asian land." He goes on to mention some great places to meet Indian girls online, such as Bharat Students. At Bharat Students (which calls itself the Young Soul of India) you can find classes conducted in Hindi, Tamil, Telugu, Bengali, Kannada and Malayalam. In the Hindi Cafe I found plenty of wallpapers, Bollywood photo galleries, and Bollywood news and gossips updates (sic). This is evidently not where the girlhunting can be found! ClaritaSlux, who seems to share my interest in Russian girls living in non-Russian parts of the world, says: "If you want to win an Indian bride I would recommend impressing them with your intellect first and not your money or looks. In my experience this is what a woman from India who is looking for a mate wants. Westerners go for money and the ladies on the sub Asian continent go for brains. Destiny and brains are what Hindu and matrimonial women look for." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bumbay Boys and Girls: The Bumbays of The Philippines Bumbays are what people in The Philippines call Indians (or Arabs). According to Bhavakuta, even Filipinos that are born with long noses or round eyes are called "bumbay look" because they resemble the Indians. Like Indians, the Filipinos are a people who will travel the world in search of work and a better life. Like Indians, many Filipinos end up working and living in places like the United Arab Emirates. It is in such circumstances that a mutual attraction develops. As babu101, am Indian massage therapist in Dubai, submitted on OLX: "I AM SEARCHING FOR A GIRL FRIEND FROM INDIANS,SRILANKANS OR FILIPINOS." Friendship and Fun in Dubai wrote: "Hi, i am well settled male (indian), seeking Filipino females for friendship. Casual encounters no strings attached..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Dating Direct: Japanese Girls for Indians I know this is not strictly speaking Indian or Tamil. But, nonetheless, many Tamils live in the United Kingdom, alongside many Gujaratis, Pakistanis, and other subContinentals! You can access DatingDirect anywhere (docomo), anytime (itsudemo) using your mobile. According to The Hindu news service: "About a decade ago, at the age of 33, when Darren Richards thought that the Internet could be the perfect way of meeting other singletons in his area, in the UK, he was in for a disappointment. His search for an online agency to join led him only to companies in the US. 'Even worse, none of the sites seemed to take the idea of meeting a new partner online seriously, encouraging members to use silly nicknames such as Sexy Babe and Hot Pants,' recounts Rachel Bridge in one of the chapters included in How I Made It: 40 successful entrepreneurs reveal all (www.vivagroupindia.com). "A frustrated Richards thought that he couldn't be the only person who wanted to use the Internet to find a serious date. And that resulted in a blueprint for a British online dating service. "The first few website developers he approached told him it could not be done, but he eventually found someone able and willing to do the job. Richards gave the designer a 20 per cent stake in the company in return for creating a new interactive website, and it was launched in 1999 at a cost of 2,500 pounds. Within three months it had 40,000 members..." Now there are more than five million. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Desktop Dating: Free Online Dating Site. I recently received an invitation to join this dating site. In the end I didn't join up because it seems you have to pay to be a member, although I did subscribe to the newsletter. I will keep you posted if any interesting news lands in my newstray from the site. The chatroom also appears to be free, and it offers chat capabilities including web camera. At any time there appear to be about 2000 members online connecting and interacting, and there are always Indians in the chatroom. The chatroom bristles with names like sripriya_sexy and karthikdme59. ..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Indian Reunited: Indian Classifieds. Free classified ads covering art and antiques, books and publications, clothing, dating and friendship, health and fitness, pets and so on. By pets I am not sure they mean the recent Indian phenomenon of "pet dating", or "dog dating" -- dating sites for dogs. That is the kind of craziness the Japanese would come up with. Anyway, since live human dating is what we are interested in on this site -- specifically, Hindi dating -- let's head into the "dating and friendship" lounge of Indian Reunited, and see what they have under the hood. Actually there is not much there, at least for now -- it might change in the future. The last time I checked in there (August 2009) I found a couple of ads for an outfit called the Sampark Network (designed to make your social life more active and stimulating), an ad for Indian and Russian escorts in New Delhi (http://www.bluebabes.in; there's not only Indian and Russian girls but Afghani, Turkish and Moroccan women there as well) and some of the usual make money online spam generating out of Durgapur. Dodgy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . MyZamana: A Place to Meet Interesting People. I got an invitation to join this site from a certain Fenny Fenny today (June 8, 2011). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . One Love Net: Free Singles Profiles in Chennai. Spruiks the website: "Find Singles for Free @ OneLoveNet.com, 100% Free Dating Site & Marchmaking Service. Soon, we will list other 100% free dating sites for you. Stay connected! "Being a quickly growing free online dating personals website and service, OneLoveNet.com provides new personal ads every day for men, women, boys & girls..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Simply Marry: Hindi Matrimonials. "India's only metro-monial site" is the motto of this marriage site, which aims at equalizing the gender gap. Hindi women are no longer expected to set themselves on fire at the death of their husbands, or follow 10 feet behind them as they walk down the street. Or so one would hope. Out of this comes another prominent slogan at Simply Marry: "When you treat each other as Equals." Here you will find people of the Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jain, Jewish, Muslim, Parsi and Sikh faiths, all of them coming together on equal terms. Castes represented range from Agarwal to Yadav. With everything in between. Among the Agarwal community, for example, you can find five pages of prospective brides at the time of writing (April 2010), aged between 21 and 25. Neha is a 25-year-old female journalist from Delhi. Among the Yadav community there are a further 5 pages of would be brides. Leena, aged 25, is an advertising visualiser living in Jaipur, Rajasthan. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Rishtenaateindia: Tamil Dating. Says the website: "The best online dating site for tamil singles to meet their Soulmate! Sign up today for totally free membership We have in our database thousands of dating profiles with photo from Chennai, Coimbatore, Cuddalore,Karur, Dindigul, Nilgiris, Perambalur, Dharmapuri, Erode, Kanchipuram, Kanyakumari, Pudukkottai, Ramanathapuram, Salem, Sivaganga, Teni, Thanjavur, Madurai, Nagapattinam, Namakal, Thiruvarur, Tiruchchirappalli, Tiruvannamalai, Tuticorin, Vellore, Viluppuram, Virudunagar, Ariyalur and other regions of Tamilnadu and NRI Single tamil girls and boys. " . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Brides: Tamil Matrimonials. Here you can search potential brides based on age, height, caste (Brahmin - Iyer, Brahmin - Iyenger, Pillai, etc), sub-caste (Brihatcharan, Brahacharana, Thenkalai, Vadakalai, etc), star (Poosam, Thiruvathirai, Sadhayam, Thiruvonam, etc), home city (Chennai, Coimbatore, Bangalore, Singapore, etc), and so on (educational level, career, etc.) Registration is free and takes just a few minutes of your time. Tamil Brides is a part of Tamil Matrimony which is part of Bharat Matriomony Dot Com. At the mother site, you can find partners from all over the Indian world: in particular Assamese, Bengali, Gujarati, Hindi, Kannada, Malayalee, Marathi, Marwadi, Oriya, Parsi, Punjabi, Sindhi, Telugu and Urdu brides. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Brides and Grooms: Tamil Brides and Grooms. Browse for your life partner... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Chat Online: Tamil Chat Online. This is site is dedicated thus: "Nice tamil stories, tamil jokes, tamil song lyrics Latest news. Please share your stories, jokes with others." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Matrimony says: Sinhala Matrimony. The website asks: "Are you single? Would you like to mingle with your perfect partner of your life time?? "Sinhala Matrimony brings the perfect match of yours closer to you by searching all the profiles. It is absolutely FREE to join, so why wait? "Sri Lanka Matrimony Features:- "1) Matrimonial services offered through this web will be totally free forever "2) Add Your Profile Or Personal Details for FREE "3) Add Your Photos for FREE "4) Managing multiple profiles using one user account. "5) Search Profiles for FREE "6) Sensitive information like Contact details, Horoscope and photos can be shown/protected in three levels. " http://en.gimeney.net/personals/India/Tamil%20Nadu/Chennai/213682.cdiml: Click here. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Wire: Tamil Friends Network. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Woo Me: Hindu Girls. Find Hindu girls and Hindu women online in free live video & webcam chat. On WooMe, it is easy to meet a Hindu woman -- simply find Hindu girls online, chat live and decide WOOs you! You will find the likes of Sohali here (pictured), and girls like Suki, Preeti, Mala and Dola. And plenty more on top of that! .

m e e t i n g - h i n d i - g i r l s - o f f l i n e MANY WESTERN MEN FIND THEMSELVES ATTRACTED TO THE INDIAN GIRLS IN SINGAPORE AND MALAYSIA, MANY OF WHOM ARE OF TAMIL EXTRACTION. Stickman, that famous expat blogger of the South-East Asian scene, quotes a reader named Harry who says: "For the travellers that prefer the company of dusky maidens, the Indian community of Malaysia is around 10% of the population. Indian girls have a 'Western' facial appearance but I think the allure of darker skin coupled with nice big eyes, long black hair and a wide grin serves to speed up the heartbeat. I can understand why Western men become attracted to Indian girls as they tend to have an innocent and sweet playful approach to conversation. The key to forming a lasting relationship with an Indian girl lies in the level of her usually strict family upbringing and religious background. As in Thailand, an Indian family is very close knit, and a western boyfriend will eventually be accepted into that family providing his intentions appear to be honourable. It's not an easy task to break down this cultural barrier. Particularly so if the girl's family are Hindu in the strictest sense as it's the parents responsibility to arrange marriages without courtship! However, it's my experience that the Indian people of Malaysia are the friendliest of all ethnic groups and they are certainly easy to talk to and reason with. For those wanting to make a good impression to the girl's father, simply take along a bottle of 'black label' and the cultural differences will melt away, or at least for that night..." It is worth noting that Harry has a wife of Malaysian Indian extraction, so he knows what he is talking about.

g a y - & - l e s b i a n - s u p p o r t INDIA'S GAY AND LESBIAN PEOPLE ARE COMING OUT OF THE SHADOWS IN INCREASING NUMBERS. Last year (2008) Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore held their first ever gay pride parades, with about 900 people marching in each city while a largely supportive crowd looked on. I got this from the Globe and Mail newspaper from Toronto, Canada. The Globe and Mail went on to report: "A new lesbian support hot-line opened by a Chennai gay group received 45 calls the first day they turned on their phone, a few months back -- although they were not meant to open for another 10 days. Many were from young women who had recently found a name for their gay identity, but were being forced into marriages by their parents..."

l o v e - & - t e x t - s m s SMS SITES IN INDIA: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Hindi SMS: Hindi Love SMS, Funny Hindi SMS and Hindi SMS Jokes. Now you can get Daily Shayari SMS on your Cell Phone, Feed Reader, E-mail A/c. On top of that, you can find: love poems and Valentine's Day messages in Hindi, jokes, etc. This seems to be one of the leading SMS resource sites in India. There are loads of cute messages you can cut and paste like this one: "Frindship opens many doors / each with a different view / but none could be more beautiful view / than the door that leads to u." For the Muslim texter there is this one: "Happy moments praise allah / difficult moments seek allah / quiet moments worship allah / painful moments trust allah / every moments thank allah." And for the true romantic there is this SMS: "Some people have nice eyes / some people have nice smiles / others have nice faces / but u have all of them with a nice heart." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Wed In Sri Lanka: The Online Wedding Planner. This site is intended for Sri Lankans abroad and at home, and for non-Sri Lankans who wish to get married in Sri Lanka. If you are looking for a wedding partner in Sri Lanka, you can even search for one here. The site can provide services such as hotel receptions, entertainment (music, band, DJ), dressing and dress making, help with the Poruwa ceremony, and caters for Buddhist, Hindu, Christian and Muslim weddings. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FAST LOVE, SPEED DATING UPDATE: VALENTINES DAY 2009 afags! wrote recently: "This year, the buzz around Valentine's Day has gone up several notches, what with chaddis and sarees being exchanged by those on the two sides of a high-pitched morality battle. However, it's not just the pro- and anti-Valentine's Day groups that are raising the decibel level: radio stations too are lining up with a host of activities for the special day. "So, for instance, if the boys tune into Red FM's Mumbai station, they get an opportunity to woo RJ Malishka and earn the glorious title of Malishka ka sabse bada deewana. "Maintaining its programming initiative of addressing the issue of the economic slowdown, Big FM has rolled out Chota Budget, Bada Pyar offering listeners romantic and exotic, yet cost-effective, options to make the most of the day. RJs will share interesting tips on cost-effective gifts, shopping destinations, restaurants and other love destinations. They will also invite listeners to share their love stories and dedicate songs on air..." "At the end of the event, participants submit a list of who they would like to provide their contact information to. If there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties. Radio One is powering this initiative and will accept entries through the on-air shows. It will select 40 contestants, 20 boys and 20 girls, who will then participate in the speed dating contest. "To win, listeners in Mumbai, Delhi, Bengaluru, Chennai and Hyderabad need to tune into Radio City's Fast Love contest..." chikka --- Send SMS messages to your pals from the web. Dosti Forever: Fropper Relationships. Claims to have four million members from all over India. Want to recommend a good place to meet Hindi girls in Delhi or Sri Lanka or India or America or wherever you live now? Go here for the comments: View Comments Post Comments Contact the author Rob Sullivan at coderot@gmail.com. Copyright December 2011.