ARE BENGALI GIRLS AS SEXY AS THEIR REPUTATION INSINUATES?
Are Bengali men so handsome and irresistable that they have to be deported from countries like Malaysia? There is a lot of rumour and speculation out there, and this website is an attempt to confirm the truth and negate the lies. On the other hand, if you want to meet Bengali men or women then this is your site, this is your magnet. According to one rather catty woman I encountered third hand on the Internet: "You know what Bengali women, especially from Calcutta, are like? Overtly sexual -- it's not like they dress like Mallika Sherawat or something. On the contrary, they'll wear these rather ethnic saris and big bindis but then then they'll arch their bodies in this overly seductive manner and speak in this low breathy manner. It's like a perpetual come hither look on their face. And this woman got that so perfectly -- her champagne voice, the quiet drawl, the swing of the hips. Yikes! And to think men are suckers for that kind of crap!"
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Suckers or not, this seems to be a common perception in India and Bangladesh and the rest of the world. Hottie Hottie Bong Bong says: "From more than one non-Bengali friend, I have heard this 'Bong babes are hot' refrain -- I remember watching 'Aye Uri Uri' from Saathiya amidst a crowd of desis at Stonybrook when a guy from UP, no doubt inspired by Rani Mukherjee's bedroom antics with Vivek Oberoi, whispered to me (without any come-hither arching of his back may I add) that:
"'Dada, I have to hand it to you. Bengali girls are the BEST.'
"I sighed. Growing up in Calcutta, we had a similar fascination for Punjabi girls -- according to urban legend, Punjabi girls had figures to die for, knew the art of seduction, had malleable morals and in general never said 'no' to anything..."
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Hottie Hottie Bong Bong goes on to state: "Bengali girls cannot generically be considered as experts in the art of making men mad with lust. It's only girls who come from specific backgrounds, who attended specific educational institutions and who have similar-minded friends that satisfy, to a certain extent, the stereotype. And I suspect that girls from other parts of India, who fit into the same cultural-moral-educational context, are equally Bong-ish.
"However there is another grain of truth in the statement of the blogger above. Bengali girls from outside Kolkata, called Probasi Bengalis, are very different, by and large from the Kolkata Bengali girl. Without resorting to simplifying generalizations, my immense experience (yeah right !) dealing with both these tribes lead me to conclude that Probasi Bengalis are far more conservative (not politically of course -- this conservatism is in reference to issues guys really care about) than their Kolkata sisters."
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Zimbio reports: "The main difference between bangladeshi grils and bengali girls is bangladeshi girls like shaloyar kamiz, besides bengali girls like t-shirt and jeans . Now a days bangladeshi girls are trying to improve their food habit , fashion , jewellery and trying to be more stylist..."
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It is not just the Bengali women who are considered hot -- the men are judged to be pretty attractive too. In fact, Bengali men from Bangladesh have been banned from Malaysia because they are just too damned sexy! The Bangla Community reports: "Bangladeshi workers were banned from Malaysia two years ago, mainly
because they were creating 'social problems' by entering into romantic
liaisons with local women, said Saiful Islam, a spokesman for Radzi.
"The New Straits Times quoted the Bangladesh home affairs minister
Radzi Sheikh Ahmad as saying on Sunday that the Bangladeshis come as
students, only to work in low-paid menial jobs in the country, which
has a severe labour shortage because rising economic prosperity has
provided many Malaysians with white-collar jobs.
"Islam said that they were found to have harassed young women and
eloped with married women, who apparently succumbed to their good
looks and charms.
"On Sunday, Radzi said Bangladeshi men look like Indian movie stars.
"Most of the men, aged between 25 and 30, were recorded as studying
English, he said.
"'This is really fishy. The age bracket is suitable for employment.
Bangladesh is an English-speaking country and it makes little sense
for them to study English here,' Radzi was quoted as saying. 'The
abuse is glaring because Bangladeshis are not allowed to work here,
but we can see hundreds working in construction sites and restaurants.'
"Radzi said most were brought by agents who made deals with colleges to
bring in the workers as students, then place them for employment.
"He said his ministry was taking the necessary action to curb the practice.
'I can assure you there are thousands of them. Of course, Malaysia is
striving to be an education hub but abuse of provisions is something
that cannot he tolerated," he said...
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Ghataks or ghotoks are the traditional matchmakers of Bengali society. Like the Bataks of Indonesia, the Bengalis are a race of two faiths -- in their case, Hinduism and Islam. Partition split the Bengalis into two nations: Muslim Bangladesh and Hindu India (West Bengal State). There are also considerable number of Bengalis in Burma (the Rohingya people) and the Gulf States (notably Saudi Arabia).
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Bangali Bondhu: The First Choice of the Modern Bengalis.
An area for the Bengali teens, youths and everyone to make new friends.
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BD Ghotok: Bangladeshi Matrimonial Site.
The last time I checked here there were 327 male members and 29 female members.
On top of that, however, Borbudhu offers the services of (at last count, in October 2010) two ghotoks, traditional Bangladeshi matchmakers.
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Bengali Matrimony: Kolkata Girls.
This section is for Bangali Men looking for Bengali Women. Your complete guide to patri in Bengali Matrimony. And there are indeed hundreds, if not thousands of Bengali men listed here, all looking for Bengali babes or brides. One Siddhartha Chatterjee, aged 23, a Hindu currently studying for his MBA, writes: "i want a beautiful girl with fair complexion and broad mentality." Telllater Dey, aged 30, weight 75kg, is "looking for a bengali girl of age range roughly 25-30, married/unmarried, for email friendship. no cast/race bullshit...just simple straightforward girls may please email me sometime." Amit, 31, height 5ft. 11 inch, writes: "I am looking for a friend (Bandhobi) for a long-term Friendship. I am from West Bengal (KRISHNAGAR , Nadia). My cell number is 9903578623." S. Mukherjee describes himself as: "31 Years ..fair..tall..hansome..Ph.D. in econ...working as Sr. Scientific Officer in Intl. reserach Inst at Hyderabad....looking for Bengali brahmin girl Age (<25) ..willing to settle out of Kolkata ....sincere...educated (at least graduate) ..soothing personality..."
"Back with some sexy photos. looks like, this forum is getting very attractive. please, allow us to post more. we need some place. please...."
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Bengali Singles: Bangladeshi Singles.
This site reads: "Search our photo for hot Bengali Singles, open minded easy Bangladeshi Singles women, someone special, cute attractive and sexy Bengali Singles, or search for cool sexy Bangladeshi Singles who share your interests, or even looking for love. Listed on this website are the latest Bengali Singles, from Bangladeshi Singles within driving distance of Bangladesh looking to chat with you."
Features include personal media gallery (audio, video, photo albums, etc), personal blog, friends list, guestbook, ShoutBox, block member capability, and Messenger with storage system. Membership is free.
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Borbudhu: Bengali Match Making Site.
At first sight this looks like a standard dating site including free registration and membership which slowly transforms into paid membership for more effective search options.
On top of that, however, Borbudhu offers the services of (at last count, in October 2010) two ghotoks, traditional Bangladeshi matchmakers.
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E-Juty: E-Juty.
Said to be a good place to meet Bengali babes.
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Facebook: In London Bangladeshi Boys and Girls.
For students studying in London.
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Ghotok Pakhi Vai: First and Largest Matrimonial Website in Bangladesh.
I am engaged in this job for about 40 years. About 8000 marriage was done by me. My interview was circular many times in many TV channels like BTV. Different kinds of newspaper published my interview. My organization is government approved and licensed.
Room no#9/27, 8th floor, Eastern Plaza, Hatirpul, Sonargoan Road, Dhaka-1205
Phone: 9668517 Fax: 9662525
Mobile: 01711-563853, 01552-433537.
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Friendship Kolkata: Sampark Network.
Sampark Network has newly launched its friendship recharge card... you can now get 240 minutes of friendship talk for only Rs150/.
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Jojajog: Bengali Matrimonial Service Managed by Bengali People.
Coming at you from Kolkata -- "As a Bengali we understand the culture, taste and other pure bengali factors which is very essential for successful matchmaking," the site claims. Membership costs Rs. 1250 for a six month package. You can find plenty of prospective Bengali brides and grooms here. Writes one woman on her spiel: "Am a Slim, pretty,homely Brahmin girl of 28 years living in my maternal uncle's home in Kolkata. My hometown is Rampurhat, where my parents live.
"My father is a retired employee of W.B.State Electricity Board. My elder maternal uncle was the Departmental Head of Indian Institute of the Cultivation of Sciences. My youngest uncle was the Media director of renowned advertising Agency. My mother is a housewife.
"I love reading and i am trained in Classical Dance.
My horoscope details: Dhanu Rashi, Mithun Lagna, Debari Gon, Batsya Gotra..."
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Kama Connections: Connecting South Asians.
The website claims to be: "The leading online dating, relationship and matchmaking site for Bengali singles in the US, UK, Canada, Germany, Australia, Dubai. Meet Bengalis looking for love, dating, marriage, matrimonial and friendship. Bengali professionals online with MBA degrees and working professionals such as doctors, engineers, dentists, Phds, computer scientist, managers, investment bankers, traders, businessmen. Here you can see some of the latest Bengali singles available all over the world and in cities like London, Birmingham, Glasgow, Southall, Los Angeles, New York, Chicago, Atlanta, Houston, Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver. Search our photo profiles and rate these Bengali singles."
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Mate 4 All: Dating Kolkata.
The last time I checked there were 3931 entries for people looking for a date in Kolkata. The entries are listed according to age, occupation, star sign (Capricorn, Gemini, Libra, Scorpio), occupation (MBA student, graduate engineer, IT manager, marketing professional, etc.) Wrote abhikmitra (a Hindu): "I am ordinary person, love life, very hard working, loves to spend long hours over phone, love music in the middle of the night, love the rain drops, love the flowing river, love the mountains in winter, love long drive..."
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Qiran: .
Listed on this website are the latest Bengali Singles, from Bangladeshi Singles within driving distance of Bangladesh looking to chat with you."
Features include ghotok, personal blog, friends list, guestbook, ShoutBox, block member capability, and Messenger with storage system. Membership is free.
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SensibleMatch: SensibleMatch.
SensibleMatch is a new kid in the block which focuses on privacy. It virtually allows someone to create two profiles: Public and Private. All information in the public profile is visible to anyone on the internet. However, accessing the private profile requires permission of the profile creator. The private profile may contain sensitive information such as photo, salary, or anything else that may be sensitive to the user. They primarily operate from Dhaka, Bangladesh and currently focusing on Bangladeshi community. Every profile on this site gets reviewed by their customer support team and gets approve only after they talk to the user who creates them. One can create a profile on this site for free. One needs to be a premium member if wishing to initiate a contact with someone.
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Single Muslim: Bengali Dating Sites.
Claims to be the world's leading Muslim introduction agency. According to testimonials, the site has hooked up numerous Bengali people from all over the world (Jakarta, Iran, Lancashire, you name it.) Mohammed from Kuwait wrote: "I signed up on SM and contacted only 1 single profile. We had our first communication on 9 Nov '08 and within few days the proposals were taken formally. On 22 Dec '08 we got married. Our families are happy & satisfied on this relationship." Medina from London wrote: "Assalamoualaikoum, Jazzaak Allah khair, Alhmdullilah, I've met somebody on this site just after 5 days of registering.. We're getting on well Alhamdullilah, InshaAllah we're planning to get married soon after new year. Thank you all very much, Keep up all the good job. May Allah bless u all brothers and sisters..."
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BANGLADESH AND CALCUTTA DON'T SPRING TO MIND AS BEING GREAT EPICENTERS OF THE CLUB SCENE. But that could be a misconception. Nahawna Afooa blogs: "Apparently the saying goes: Expats cry twice - once when they are told they have to go to Bangladesh and once when they have to leave. Why? Because Bangladesh is considered the bottom rung of locations to do development work in the world. Africa is at the top, BD at the bottom. This is what I've learned from all the yearning to go to Africa I've heard from the Aid workers here.
"Now why do they hate to leave? Because of the clubbing, of course. These aren't clubs in the sense that you may be thinking, like say discotec. No, these are Clubs in the most neo-colonial sense of the word: Country Clubs. And you have to be a citizen of the aforementioned country working with purpose in Bangladesh to become a member. Some only allow membership from the diplomatic community, some based on language but all have restrictions on the number of Bangladeshi's that are allowed in at any given time. Heaven's no, they can't become members, they can only be signed in as guests and only a few at a time because one wouldn't want to sully one's reputation. Once you are a member of one club you have access to all the rest. Except, some clubs (read the American Club) think other clubs (read the BAGHA Club - British Aid Workers Guest House Association Club) are too lenient with the locals and have placed extra restrictions on other club's members.
"What's so great about these clubs anyway that everyone is vying for a spot at the membership roster? Well the alcohol and the scantily clad women, of course. These are some of the few places that serve alcohol and where foreign women can wear whatever clothes they want. They hold parties with both of the above present as well as music and dancing. Essentially they are an oasis of the west in Bangladesh.."
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Mobile Numbers: Of Banglaeshi Girls.
Mobile phone numbers seem to be hot property in India and Bangladesh. This is especially so when they belong to young women who are looking for a date. This wesbite has literally hundreds of phone numbers. Despite the name, only a minority of them belong to girls ("all Bangladeshi school and college girls, also House wife aunties... collected from the Internet", or so the website claims.) Most of the numbers have in fact been posted by guys looking for girls, in the comments section underneath the main content. Amongst the girls who had their numbers listed above the fold you can find short comments, perhaps written by the girls themselves. One of the girls apparently says: "Pream korar kotha bolla hoba na valo friendship korta hoba tarpor ja khusi korta paro no problem."
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NISHAT MAZUMDER, THE FIRST BANGLADESHI WOMAN TO SCALE MOUNT EVEREST, DEDICATED HER CLIMB TO THE "BECAUSE I AM A GIRL" (BIAAG) CAMPAIGN, ACCORDING TO THE YOUTH POWER IN SOCIAL ACTION (YPSA) ORGANISATION. The YPSA website reported: "After placing the BIAAG flag atop the world’s highest mountain, Nishat has placed the BIAAG flag titled 'From the Highest Mountain to the Longest Beach' on the world’s longest beach, in Cox’s Bazar, Bangladesh on October 5. YPSA attended as a supportive organization in this campaign.
Plan Bangladesh launches its ‘Because I am a Girl’ campaign this October they plan to urge everyone to raise their hands, 'Hands Up!' they call it, in support of women’s empowerment. The campaign is made to address the issue of gender discrimination around the world."
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WHILE INDIA HAS BECOME FAMOUS IN RECENT YEARS FOR ITS FLAMBOYANT WEDDINGS, WEDDING CUSTOMS VARY CONSIDERABLY ACROSS THE COUNTRY. The Indian International Student Organization claims that "y and power. In fact, it is the wife who must keep house and look after all the household requirements..." Bengali Culture: "The vivid picture of the kitchen in medieval Bengali literature (is) collected in Mangal Kavyas. A woman's culinary activity makes her a participant in the sacrificial aspect in which cooking is closely connected to religion. Preparation of a meal is also linked to Karma (desire). A young woman must study the rules of culinary erotica and develop them into an art to win over husband's attention -- a universal feminine strategy. The best role model for a Bengali woman is Draupadi as it is believed that she used to keep all her five husbands happy and none used to return from her kitchen hungry."
The wedding menu in Bengali household are almost the same selection of dishes.
Fish cutlet / Vegetable cutlet (crumbed and deep fried)
Radhaballavi
Alur dam / Cholar dal narkel diya
Fried rice (steamed rice with vegetables and nuts in ghee)
