Tweet "MARRIAGE IS A SACROSANCT BOND THAT BINDS TWO INDIVIDUALS IN A LONG LASTING BOND," READS THE INTRODUCTION ON HINDU MATRIMONIALS' AGARWAL BRIDE WEBSITE. "While choosing a life partner especially talking of Hindu Marriages, several criteria needs to be fulfilled. Belonging to the same caste is one of the most important one." Over at Matrimonials India they say: "Finding your ideal wife within the same caste and having the same mother tongue is almost a dream come true." There are close to 5 million Agrawals in the world today, mostly in India, some also in Canada, the UK, the USA. The Agarwals are a professional caste, the traders of old India. Some of the richest families on the subcontinent belong to the clan. They have been called the most enterprising clan in India, and dominate business, politics and so on. Agarwals make up a large part of the Bania community in northern India. The Vania community has gotras such as Agarwal, Dasora, Dishawal, Kapol, Nagori, Vagada, Modh and Nagar. I have said elsewhere on Crowded World that Hindu women are attracted to destiny and brains, and the Agrawals feature plenty of both. There is a third quality which women all over the world find irresistible, and that is money. If you are looking for a rich woman or man, there are websites on the Internet to help you. I want to write one myself, someday. There are literally lakhs of Agarwal girls out there in the wide world, waiting to find their match. There are also a lot of individuals with the "Agarwal" family name, some of them famous, such as Kajal Agarwal, and Sonia Agarwal. Confusingly, not all Agarwals are Agarwals, or even Agrawals for that matter... see here for clarification. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . As a non-Hindu myself, I find the idea of caste a challenging thing to understand. When I was in Nepal I was told that as far as young people are concerned these days, there are only two castes today: men and women. I don't know if this is the majority view across the subcontinent; I doubt it. Despite being abolished in 1955, following the Gandhi revolution, the caste system seems very much alive. As one poster wrote on Yahoo! Answers: "I am Brahmin and even though I really do not identify with its tenets and beliefs, my family will not accept my fiance if she is not brahmin. My mother will go to the extent of not accepting her if she is not a tamil iyer brahmin which is a very specific sub-sect of brahmin. Personally, I think discriminating on the basis of caste brings back the evils of Indian society in the olden days and that people should move on and not marry based upon caste anymore." This is the kind of discrimination which results, say, in Bania girls having a vastly different life story and body type than their Jat Sikh sisters (read here for an elaboration.) In the Manu Smitri it states: "The society that provides respect and dignity to women flourishes with nobility and prosperity. And a society that does not put women on such a high pedestal has to face miseries and failures regardless of howsomuch noble deeds they perform otherwise." Friendship and Fun in Dubai wrote: "Hi, i am well settled male (indian), seeking Filipino females for friendship. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Date Me Mate Me: International Dating Site for Singles. "It's not important if you are a man or a woman," reads the introduction on this dating site. "You still can't find the best match that will love you, care about you, and make you happy? You want to find a friend a soul mate that will listen to what you have to say? Then our free dating services will grant you all of this and more. No fees, no need to make money transfers it’s all free. Forget about past dating experience, now you will experience other sensations and find what you were looking." Says Aadi Agrwal on his post here: "hiii to all. well.. nothing to say about me but trying to explain myself. I m simple, cool and fun loving guy.i hve much emotions in my heart and i m very sensitive..." "A frustrated Richards thought that he couldn't be the only person who wanted to use the Internet to find a serious date. And that resulted in a blueprint for a British online dating service. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Hindu Vivaha: India's Exclusive Hindu Community Matrimonial Portal. Find My Match allows you to search through matrimonial ads published in Indian newspapers. If you register, you get to see phone numbers accompanying the ads, which are written in authentic, economical newspaper classifieds style English. Communities here include Agarwal, Brahmin, Bunt, Jain, Kuruba, Rajput, and Sindhi. Caste no bar." (This is a classified I read the last time I visited here, in March 2012.) In more plain English, I found this ad posted by an Indian father living in America: "Looking Medical Doctor doing Internship or Postgraduate or preparing for foreign Medical graduate exam for USA for beautiful, cultured 23 yr. old daughter studying Business in USA. All vaishyas including Agrawal, Jaiswal will be considered..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . iMilap: Hindu Girls Agarwal. This is a place where physically handicapped, blind, deaf and mute people can search for love, but there are also some very able and well endowed women here. One of them, lovewilling38, an air hostess from New York City, had this to say the last time I browsed here: "I want to give all of my tenderness and care to my special man, I enjoy nature, seeing the stars at night, listening to the sounds of nature, being near the water, swimming, as I love the ocean and sea." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . iMilap: Hindu Girls Agarwal. This is a place where physically handicapped, blind, deaf and mute people can search for love, but there are also some very able and well endowed women here. One of them, lovewilling38, an air hostess from New York City, had this to say the last time I browsed here: "I want to give all of my tenderness and care to my special man, I enjoy nature, seeing the stars at night, listening to the sounds of nature, being near the water, swimming, as I love the ocean and sea." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Quickr: Free Local Classifieds. There are thousands of Indians on Quickr buying and selling goods, hunting for jobs, and looking for love. In Indore, one organisation posted this ad: "FULL MARWARI /AGARWAL WEDDING WITH ALL THE TRADITIONAL CUSTOMS,PUJA SAMAGREE,FULL DETAILED MARRIAGE PLAN ,EVENT ORGANIZATION ,SAREES .LAHANGA ,CUSTOMIZED TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE WITH ALL DETAILED INSTRUCTIONS." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . One Love Net: Free Singles Profiles in Chennai. Spruiks the website: "Find Singles for Free @ OneLoveNet.com, 100% Free Dating Site & Marchmaking Service. Soon, we will list other 100% free dating sites for you. Stay connected! "Being a quickly growing free online dating personals website and service, OneLoveNet.com provides new personal ads every day for men, women, boys & girls..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Simply Marry: Hindi Matrimonials. "India's only metro-monial site" is the motto of this marriage site, which aims at equalizing the gender gap. Hindi women are no longer expected to set themselves on fire at the death of their husbands, or follow 10 feet behind them as they walk down the street. Or so one would hope. Out of this comes another prominent slogan at Simply Marry: "When you treat each other as Equals." Here you will find people of the Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jain, Jewish, Muslim, Parsi and Sikh faiths, all of them coming together on equal terms. Castes represented range from Agarwal to Yadav. With everything in between. Among the Agarwal community, for example, you can find five pages of prospective brides at the time of writing (April 2010), aged between 21 and 25. Neha is a 25-year-old female journalist from Delhi. Among the Yadav community there are a further 5 pages of would be brides. Leena, aged 25, is an advertising visualiser living in Jaipur, Rajasthan. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Speed Dating: Singles in Raipur, India. Speed dating has become popular in India over recent years, especially in cities like Mumbai, where time-strapped professionals use it as a way of finding partners. In the original speed dating, there would be a room or something like that full of tables, and a clock ticking away prominently on a wall. Guys and girls would circulate from table to table, meeting each member of the opposite sex for short microdates. Every three minutes or so the clock would ring, or someone would blow a whistle, or swing a bell, or chink a glass, and it would time for all the daters to move on to their next table. Speeddate.com takes the frenetic pace of speed dating, and gives it global reach on the Internet. Rahul Agrawal , 27, Male seeking Female, Raipur, India. Ankur Agrawal is seeking singles in Chicago, IL. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Brides: Tamil Matrimonials. Here you can search potential brides based on age, height, caste (Brahmin - Iyer, Brahmin - Iyenger, Pillai, etc), sub-caste (Brihatcharan, Brahacharana, Thenkalai, Vadakalai, etc), star (Poosam, Thiruvathirai, Sadhayam, Thiruvonam, etc), home city (Chennai, Coimbatore, Bangalore, Singapore, etc), and so on (educational level, career, etc.) Registration is free and takes just a few minutes of your time. Tamil Brides is a part of Tamil Matrimony which is part of Bharat Matriomony Dot Com. At the mother site, you can find partners from all over the Indian world: in particular Assamese, Bengali, Gujarati, Hindi, Kannada, Malayalee, Marathi, Marwadi, Oriya, Parsi, Punjabi, Sindhi, Telugu and Urdu brides. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Brides and Grooms: Tamil Brides and Grooms. Browse for your life partner... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Chat Online: Tamil Chat Online. This is site is dedicated thus: "Nice tamil stories, tamil jokes, tamil song lyrics Latest news. Please share your stories, jokes with others." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Matrimony says: Sinhala Matrimony. The website asks: "Are you single? Would you like to mingle with your perfect partner of your life time?? "Sinhala Matrimony brings the perfect match of yours closer to you by searching all the profiles. It is absolutely FREE to join, so why wait? "Sri Lanka Matrimony Features:- "1) Matrimonial services offered through this web will be totally free forever "2) Add Your Profile Or Personal Details for FREE "3) Add Your Photos for FREE "4) Managing multiple profiles using one user account. "5) Search Profiles for FREE "6) Sensitive information like Contact details, Horoscope and photos can be shown/protected in three levels. " http://en.gimeney.net/personals/India/Tamil%20Nadu/Chennai/213682.cdiml: Click here. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Tamil Wire: Tamil Friends Network. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Woo Me: Hindu Girls. Find Hindu girls and Hindu women online in free live video & webcam chat. On WooMe, it is easy to meet a Hindu woman -- simply find Hindu girls online, chat live and decide WOOs you! You will find the likes of Sohali here (pictured), and girls like Suki, Preeti, Mala and Dola. And plenty more on top of that! .

k a j a l - a g a r w a l - h o t - p i c s MANY WESTERN MEN FIND THEMSELVES ATTRACTED TO THE INDIAN GIRLS IN SINGAPORE AND MALAYSIA, MANY OF WHOM ARE OF TAMIL EXTRACTION. Stickman, that famous expat blogger of the South-East Asian scene, quotes a reader named Harry who says: "For the travellers that prefer the company of dusky maidens, the Indian community of Malaysia is around 10% of the population. Indian girls have a 'Western' facial appearance but I think the allure of darker skin coupled with nice big eyes, long black hair and a wide grin serves to speed up the heartbeat. I can understand why Western men become attracted to Indian girls as they tend to have an innocent and sweet playful approach to conversation. The key to forming a lasting relationship with an Indian girl lies in the level of her usually strict family upbringing and religious background. As in Thailand, an Indian family is very close knit, and a western boyfriend will eventually be accepted into that family providing his intentions appear to be honourable. It's not an easy task to break down this cultural barrier. Particularly so if the girl's family are Hindu in the strictest sense as it's the parents responsibility to arrange marriages without courtship! However, it's my experience that the Indian people of Malaysia are the friendliest of all ethnic groups and they are certainly easy to talk to and reason with. For those wanting to make a good impression to the girl's father, simply take along a bottle of 'black label' and the cultural differences will melt away, or at least for that night..." It is worth noting that Harry has a wife of Malaysian Indian extraction, so he knows what he is talking about.

g a y - & - l e s b i a n - s u p p o r t INDIA'S GAY AND LESBIAN PEOPLE ARE COMING OUT OF THE SHADOWS IN INCREASING NUMBERS. Last year (2008) Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore held their first ever gay pride parades, with about 900 people marching in each city while a largely supportive crowd looked on. I got this from the Globe and Mail newspaper from Toronto, Canada. The Globe and Mail went on to report: "A new lesbian support hot-line opened by a Chennai gay group received 45 calls the first day they turned on their phone, a few months back -- although they were not meant to open for another 10 days. Many were from young women who had recently found a name for their gay identity, but were being forced into marriages by their parents..."

l o v e - & - t e x t - s m s SMS SITES IN INDIA: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Hindi SMS: Hindi Love SMS, Funny Hindi SMS and Hindi SMS Jokes. Now you can get Daily Shayari SMS on your Cell Phone, Feed Reader, E-mail A/c. On top of that, you can find: love poems and Valentine's Day messages in Hindi, jokes, etc. This seems to be one of the leading SMS resource sites in India. There are loads of cute messages you can cut and paste like this one: "Frindship opens many doors / each with a different view / but none could be more beautiful view / than the door that leads to u." For the Muslim texter there is this one: "Happy moments praise allah / difficult moments seek allah / quiet moments worship allah / painful moments trust allah / every moments thank allah." And for the true romantic there is this SMS: "Some people have nice eyes / some people have nice smiles / others have nice faces / but u have all of them with a nice heart." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Wed In Sri Lanka: The Online Wedding Planner. This site is intended for Sri Lankans abroad and at home, and for non-Sri Lankans who wish to get married in Sri Lanka. If you are looking for a wedding partner in Sri Lanka, you can even search for one here. The site can provide services such as hotel receptions, entertainment (music, band, DJ), dressing and dress making, help with the Poruwa ceremony, and caters for Buddhist, Hindu, Christian and Muslim weddings. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FAST LOVE, SPEED DATING UPDATE: VALENTINES DAY 2009 afags! wrote recently: "This year, the buzz around Valentine's Day has gone up several notches, what with chaddis and sarees being exchanged by those on the two sides of a high-pitched morality battle. However, it's not just the pro- and anti-Valentine's Day groups that are raising the decibel level: radio stations too are lining up with a host of activities for the special day. "So, for instance, if the boys tune into Red FM's Mumbai station, they get an opportunity to woo RJ Malishka and earn the glorious title of Malishka ka sabse bada deewana. "Maintaining its programming initiative of addressing the issue of the economic slowdown, Big FM has rolled out Chota Budget, Bada Pyar offering listeners romantic and exotic, yet cost-effective, options to make the most of the day. RJs will share interesting tips on cost-effective gifts, shopping destinations, restaurants and other love destinations. They will also invite listeners to share their love stories and dedicate songs on air..." "At the end of the event, participants submit a list of who they would like to provide their contact information to. If there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties. Radio One is powering this initiative and will accept entries through the on-air shows. It will select 40 contestants, 20 boys and 20 girls, who will then participate in the speed dating contest. "To win, listeners in Mumbai, Delhi, Bengaluru, Chennai and Hyderabad need to tune into Radio City's Fast Love contest..." chikka --- Send SMS messages to your pals from the web. Dosti Forever: Fropper Relationships. Claims to have four million members from all over India. Want to recommend a good place to meet Hindi girls in Delhi or Sri Lanka or India or America or wherever you live now? Go here for the comments: View Comments Post Comments Contact the author Rob Sullivan at coderot@gmail.com. Copyright February 2012.